Attempting to seem important, and not being shy about it.
I'm so busy that I can't keep up with all my phone calls and emails! I am so important.
(Urban Dictionary) March 11, 2003
See that? March, 2003 - over 16 years ago! And I honestly believe that our busy-ness is becoming more and more compounded as the years go on.
Do you wear your busy as a badge of honour?
I used to.
When people would politely ask, ‘How are you?"‘, my response ALWAYS was,
Because I actually was.
And you know I’ve been actively trying to slow down the busy. For my health and for the sake of my family. Me and busy don’t actually mix well. I end up a frazzled mess with a brain that can’t string a complete thought together. I mix up my words (literally, I will say ‘blue cup’ when I mean ‘red plate’). I forget where I’m going and what I’m doing. And I let people down.
On a side note: yesterday afternoon, I felt the gloomy cloud of ‘busy’ take over - I was trying to help Miss 10 with homework and at the same time, the Blood Bank called to book my next three appointments, a door-door salesman knocked (despite our Do Not Knock sticker), I was trying to also organise dinner, get ready to instruct Wonder Women and I’m a bit worried about some big events coming up for Little Aths (I coordinate the canteen, which is not a small task on these big days). By the end of it all, I really felt like I couldn’t breathe and I certainly couldn’t think straight,
Alright. Back to the main point of all of this.
Do you wear your busy with pride?
Are you happy to tell people that you are busy? Are you actually busy? Or does it upset you to be SO busy all the time?
What is causing this busy-ness? Is everything that you do absolutely necessary? Will the world implode if you stop doing something?
You see, ‘busy’ is the NUMBER ONE reason I hear from women, on a daily basis, to explain their lack of ability to look after their own health. Yes, work is inevitable. We all need an income to put a roof over our family’s heads (but there is so much more I could say about this topic, and that’s for another day).
But I would really call into question the amount of ‘extra’ stuff that we do that contributes to this ‘busy’.
What if, next time instead of saying yes straight away to ANOTHER activity for the kids, that you just sit back and consider the impact it will have on your health and the impact it will have on family time.
What if, next time instead of saying yes straight away to another volunteer role, or additional project at work, that you just sit back and consider the impact it will have on your health and the impact it will have on family time.
And what if, next time instead of being proud of ‘busy’, that you just sit back and consider the impact that it will have on your health and the impact is will have on family time.